Just Give The Old Guy A Chance To Talk

jco_richard-petty-motorsports43_1043.  I am 43.  Today I am 43 years old.  The geek in me wants to say that I am over 43 due to the leap year factor, but for sake of argument, we will just simplify this and say that today is the day.  Ready to start a new year with some new perspective.

The past year has brought a lot of change with it.  A year ago I was not the father of a college student.  I was seeing more transition in my job duties.  My son wasn’t sporting a beard.  Areas of life had less stress.  Areas of life had more stress!  People have come into and gone out of my life.  Relationships have grown stronger.  My thoughts have become heavier.  Then, to top it off, as I posted last week, I now have diabetes to consider.

Much has changed, and that is a good thing.  Change is a necessary part of life, and it is an integral part of a Relentless Life.  Without change, things grow stagnant, sour, weak, and irrelevant.  I don’t want that.  There are still things to do, things to see, things to experience and share.

I’ve been thinking a lot more lately about my life.  Specifically, about how my actions affect the future for myself and others.  Obviously I am experiencing some of what my passion for food has done to my body, and how I must make change in order to correct as much of that as I can, but there have been other actions that are having affects on me and those around me as well. Some of them need to be changed in some way or another if there is to be growth.  The FOCUS needs to shift if there is going to be growth.

Whether you are interested in them or not, here are some of my thoughts on things I would like to have a better grip on before I hit the “double 4”.

My Family – Things are changing in our home as our daughter leaves for college in the fall and our son is going to finish high school and has entered the work force before he leaves for college next year.  Tammi and I are going to be spending more time as we started – just the two of us.  There are going to be new ways I will need to adapt to the needs of my family in these new circumstances.  I want them to see that I love and care for them not in the way that is convenient for me, but in the way that they need it.

My Health – As of today I am down 32.5 pounds with a goal of another 34.5.  My blood pressure is dropping with the weight, and I am hoping to get off that medication by next year.  Praying to see the blood sugar straighten out with the changes in diet as well.  So odd that in the middle of feeling so good and healthy from losing weight I find I have a whole different problem, but like I said here, I think it is more of a spiritual issue than a a health issue.

My Friendships – The last year or so has bought me into closer relationships with a group of good and godly men.  I want to work harder at making those friendships grow deeper and stronger.  There are things I had done that I need to get back to doing, and there are thing I need to start doing that I never have done!  A good friend is not something to be ignored.

My Work – God has put a task before me, and I want to honor Him in that.  There is an aspect of worship to God in my work that I cannot ignore.  I need to remember that I am always serving Him in the things that I do, and hopefully that will make the rough times better.  I also will be more intentional about how I can provide for my family outside of my main job.

My Faith – Over the last year I have been more intentional about my time with God, and I don’t want that to change.  I need that time with Him to keep my heart right and my head clear.  The time I spend in God’s Word gives me purpose and courage to take hard steps in all aspects of life.  God gets the glory for what He is doing, and I get the joy of being able to have a front row seat in His plan.

grumpy-old-man-list-card-19I get a lot of ribbing from a buddy of mine about being old.  That’s OK.  I’m finally at an age where I am starting to see how my decisions can play out. I have enough life experience that before I do a stupid thing I get that feeling that I have been here before! Sometimes it even stops me from doing it!!!  I guess that is the benefit of age though, and I hope my mistakes, experiences, and thoughts are a help to someone else.

What are you going to do with your next trip around the sun?  Be Relentless in it.  Feel free to share this post and I would be happy to hear your comments either below or e-mail at myrelentlessgrowth@gmail.com!

 

 

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In This Corner…

Kevin-Keigley-Buffet (1)But may all who search for You be filled with joy and gladness.  May those who love Your salvation repeatedly shout, “The Lord is great!”  As for me, I am poor and needy, but the Lord is thinking about me right now.  You are my helper and my savior. Do not delay, O my God.

–          Psalm 40:16-17

2013 is coming to a close.  It is that time of year when we sit down and take an inventory of how our year went and what we would like to think about for the coming year.  Sometimes we are happy with our results, and other times…

Well, overall, I have had a very good year.  Tammi and I are happier than we have ever been, and we just celebrated our 20th CHRISTmas as a married couple.  Amazing how time flies when you are having fun, and we are!  Our kids are doing well and we are proud to see how they are not only growing physically, but also spiritually.  It has been so awesome to see God stretch each of them through experiences this past year.

Well, there is one area that I want to focus on for this next year.  I am not positive, but I think I have managed (with some variation over the course of the year) to maintain my unhealthy weight.  I can tell you, it wasn’t always easy.  There were some very hard times where I had to get through serious indigestion, discomfort while tying my shoes, and sweating while eating.  Through it all, I managed to persevere and stay in the game.

Why is that?  I know that there have been a lot of times that I tried to talk myself out of some of the food choices I was making, but I turned a deaf ear to my own advice.  Well, maybe it wasn’t a deaf ear.  My wife says I chew very loudly, so maybe I just didn’t hear…

No, that wasn’t it.  I know the reason.  I love food.  Really. I love it! I think that at times it has gone too far, and I have made it my god.  I joke about that at times, but it really isn’t very funny.  Some days I have given food far more thought, attention, study, and adoration than I have given God.  Not  something I am proud of.

I don’t want to be cliché or anything, but I am really beginning a new focus in this area this year.  I will be going to see the doc in a few weeks, and I have a goal for that appointment.  After that, I have a goal in mind for my 41st B-Day in May and then another for September and one for year end.

Why?  Well, I want to be healthier, for one.  I’m 40, and I am much more aware of blood pressure and cholesterol than I was 10 years ago.  If I don’t pay attention to it I might not need to bother in another 10 years!  My health is important so I am available for my family, but it isn’t the most important reason.

The most important reason is that I want to be filled with God.  I want to be filled with His joy as it says in the verse above.  I am poor and needy in this area, and it really gives me strength to think that God is thinking about me as I work on this.  It won’t be easy.  It will be very hard at times.  I know I will need to work hard on this, and that I will sometimes fail.  As I sit here and write this I am surrounded by food at a family gathering.  I guess this is the first challenge.  There will be more.  Too many more.

I know that there will be those who will help me with accountability.  Some will not need to be asked, as they will read this as an invitation to get in my business from time to time.  I will need to ask a few others.  I feel good knowing that I have people who care enough to do it.

So, there is a Relentless Growth for 2014.  To remove my stomach from the throne of my life and put my Lord and Savior on it instead.  I will probably post a couple other goals over the next few days as well.  If I don’t write them down, then I am the only one checking up on me!

Be relentless!

In HIS Grip,

Tom