You know what day it is? It is my wife’s Birthday! Last year I did a list of reasons I love my wife that had an arbitrary total of 44 reasons. You can read that list here. I have chosen not to do a list again this year, opting instead to just add an item to it. It’s not that I can’t come up with, O, let’s pick another random number like 45 reasons I love her. I could. Easily! I just want to focus on this item I am adding to that list from a year ago.
45. We are going to rock the next chapter of our lives.
Yep. I said it. We are going to be that amazing couple people look at whose children have gone to college and are just walking through life without a care in the world and the world on a string. We will have people asking what our secret is and how they can be more like us. Who knows, we might get asked to write a book, do lectures, and even host a theme cruise because we just have it all figured out!
I don’t think we are going to see things at that extreme, but I think we are going to be pretty awesome in this next stage. There might some people who want to learn from us who feel like we do have it all figured out, but they will be wrong. That’s OK. We know it, and we aren’t afraid to show it.
So, I want to speak to my wife for a moment now. Please silence your cell phones and try not to leave your seat or cause a disturbance. I do allow flash photography, but politely request that you refrain from shouting out suggested poses. This is a serious moment.
We have known each other a long time – seriously it is like 32 years or so. That is insane! In all of those years we have grown to know each other very well. We have seen each other at our best and at our worst. Tears have been shed in fear, grief, pain, happiness, joy, and sometimes because it was a Tuesday.
So many memories, and I treasure them all because they tell a story. It’s a beautiful story about two people who fell in love with no idea they were in the shallow end of the pool.
Today is your birthday, and I want you to know that as crazy as I was about that young(er) lady who walked down the aisle almost 22 years ago, I am so much more head over heels with the young lady I am still married to today!
As the years have gone by, I have watched you try new things and succeed, and try things that did not, but in all of them I saw your excitement over something new and unexplored. It’s just like when we say it is time to choose a vacation spot. For you, getting ready to start getting there is more than half the fun!
We are getting ready for another adventure as we take Jess to college in a month. I know it is going to be hard on you while at the same time you are so excited for her. I’m just going to be a mess for all of us.
Life is changing, and so are we. I’m thankful that we are going to do it together. I will get to be there with you every year that you have a birthday but get no older (Really. It’s not even fair!). I’m thankful that I get to see you get excited, experience things, and then learn from them. I get to be a part of your life.
I say every year that I got the gift the day you were born, and it is true. What I am also seeing now is that the years that are passing by are taking us to a place where we have not been hoping for, but have been preparing for. We knew an empty nest would happen and that it would bring a sadness with it, but we also knew it would bring new opportunities to use the things we have learned.
Where is that going to be? Not sure. I just know that whatever we do, it is going to be awesome, and that is why the completely arbitrary 45th reason I love you is that we are going to absolutely rock this next chapter of life!
I love you, Babe! You are the best!